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Phone game (not to be confused with text game) is really only about 10% or less of solidifying a second encounter. Talking on the phone will become more important to the relationship as it grows and you start to become more and more comfortable with each other, but by that point you’ll naturally be more engaged in one another that hopefully you won’t even think about what to do or say in the midst of the conversation — which is the way it always should be. But in the beginning, you should really only call the girl once you’ve already set up a date via text message (this is also the protocol when meeting women online). At this point the phone call should primarily just be vocal confirmation and setting up logistics.
NOTE: It’s okay to do a little comfort building when you make the initial phone call. It’s a great way for her to get a feel for your personality by filling in some of the blanks that one can’t always pick up on through texting. BUT, if you’re feeling less than confident on the phone I would recommend keeping this to the minimum. You have already done all the hard work by winning her over and setting up the date, you don’t want to blow it at the last minute just because you flub up for a second a make things a little awkward. I can’t tell you how many times I used to get flaked on because of something I did or said right before a date. You know the objective so get in and get out. There’ll be plenty of time to talk later.
Assume She’s Not There
You don’t want to find yourself getting spooked by the answering machine or voicemail and stumble over yourself because you’re suddenly at a loss for words. That’s why I always suggest calling with the expectation of her not answering. SO, before you dial her up, already have in mind what you’re gonna say. Write it down and rehearse it if you need too. Make sure you know exactly why you’re calling and be able to execute those reasons in the delivery. Get rid of all the “uh’s” and “um’s” that typically comes along with being put on the spot, and make sure your tone is steady and moderately upbeat.
Here’s an example:
Hey, April, It’s Andy! I just wanted to call and let you know what I had in mind for Thursday–HEY, I was curious, are you more into whips or do you like chains better? Ha ha (I personally like to literally say the words “ha ha”, but that’s just me) anyway, hit me up when you gotta second, otherwise I’ll just holler at you later. Hope all is well.
Equipping yourself with a solid, distinct, concise voicemail message is a surefire way to convey confidence and set you apart.
But what if she actually does answer the phone? Good question. A phone conversation should always be a very smooth, fluid interaction. It needs to always feel natural and not forced. So, when/if ever she does pick up, just go with the flow and enjoy yourself, and use the same topics you prepared prior to the phone call as a guide (does she, in fact, prefer chains over whips?).
When it comes right down to it, there’s really not a whole lot to phone game. However, I do like Troy Dizon’s method of “always be in the middle of something” , which is a great way to let the girl get a little sneak peek into your life. You could be out playin’ basketball with the boys, or at the grocery store trying to decide which spaghetti sauce to buy, as long as you’re making use of your time. A man who is actually out living his life is a whole lot sexier than some guy sitting on the couch, eating Doritos and watching Dr. Phil. Other than that, phone game is pretty much just point and shoot.
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